So she called at dawn today complaining about how bad her relationship has been and how she's been taken for granted for not doing anything but being a good woman and a lenient one of course.
She broke down in tears as I tried to fit into her position and make her understand that I knew how she felt.
For a moment, I realized she wished she had me instead of her boyfriend and I wished such a good hearted person was never treated the way she'd being treated.
I looked back into my life and compared my relationship with her's (it isn't too different from mine). I started to think, why don't I keep her for myself and let go of the person that I feel doesn't worth my time and everything?
Again, I sat to think about a whole lot.
What if we are only fantasizing?
What if we regret this?
What if we are not meant to be but we are made for the people we don't feel safe around?
What if I hurt my girl some day, is someone going to console her and take her away from me?
The problem is with us. We let our circumstances cloud our judgments.
We allow ourselves to be deceived that people outside our relationship are the best ones for us because that's what they've made us believe.
They'll will make you feel like you wish you had them because your partner isn't doing what they do for you.
They spend time and money on you just to get what they want from you and when they are done, they move on to the next.
We start to look elsewhere whenever we have issues in our relationship. What makes us think that having someone else or moving to another relationship would solve our problem?
The problem might be with us. We might be the cause of our own miseries and we need to look into ourselves before blaming someone else for else for it .
I am not saying you should get yourself stuck with something u don't want but don't just make a quick silly move if you know you don't want to let go.
Writer: Felix Boakye-Frempong